Question by : Is it possible to hate someone but love them at the same time?
It’s my mom. She controls my life literally! From the clothes I wear to my meals.
The other day, I was out shopping with her. She asked me what I wanted for dinner after we were done with our shopping. I said Burger King. And she said that it’s unhealthy. Of course it’s unhealthy. I know that. But I haven’t had that for like a month and have been craving for it from last week. She made the final decision of having a decent meal in a restaurant.
Then after our dinner I said that she hasn’t bought any clothes for me yet. We went to this Converse store and a t-shirt caught my eye. I asked her about it and she replied that it’s too “trashy”. What does she know?! It’s the latest fashion!. Then she picked some long-sleeved Tee and asked me if I wanted it. Reluctantly, I settled with that as I can tell from her eyes that said “Take it or leave it!” At least it’s better than nothing.
She has been controlling my life. For Christ’s sake, I’m turning 17 in 4 months. I have a part-time job, but my she demands to keep my paycheck. And she only gives me like 100 bucks a month. Is it legal to keep a minor’s paycheck? I didn’t really bother too much as always. But whenever I see something that I like, I could only imagine what I’d look like in it.
And no, we’re not living from hand to mouth. My mom has a ton of designer handbags from LV, Gucci, and Coach and she only gives me ONE Nike sling bag that’s wayyy out of fashion (Let alone ugly).
My stepdad loves me too and whenever he buys me some new clothes in the past, my mom would nag at him all day saying things like “You’re spoiling him. He’s not your bio-son so why even bother?” Now my step-dad hardly buys me any clothes anymore because of her. To be honest, I love both of them.
If I had a choice, I’d rather move out and spend my own hard-earned money, and buy what I want and eat what I crave for. But I don’t have the funds for it. The only thing that’s keeping me from shooting my mouth off and telling her what I dislike about her is my phone line. She threatened to cancel the subscription if I ever talk back or disobey her.
I don’t ever do drugs or smoke pot or anything. And get average grades in class. Do you think it’s right for her to do this to me?
Answer by Tabby S
Again, yes. She’s your mother. Until you can provide for yourself, unless she is abusing you, it’s fine. Now deal with it and give her a hug and go night night.
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